How To Handle a Horrible Boss...

How To Handle a Horrible Boss....

Dealing with a horrible boss can be tough. It can make every workday torturous. Maybe the misfires are due to something as simple as a personality conflict, or perhaps you feel like the boss man/woman just has it out for you. Whatever the case, there’s always something you can do to help restore the connection between you and your employer.

Here are some tips for wrangling that relationship and making your job a little less brutal.

GET IN GOOD

You don’t have to be BBF’s with your boss, and, honestly, it’s probably best if you aren’t. However, people who are on friendly terms with their supervisors will find that everything from year-end reviews to weekly staff meetings are a little easier to deal with. The goal is not to manipulate your boss via friendship, but to create a situation that makes open, constructive communication from both directions more likely.

If you and your boss share a common interest, that’s an easy place to start. However, if you don’t, you may have to be more creative. Little things go a long way: ask about their weekend, give them a friendly and sincere ‘hi’ when you pass them in the hall, and make it a point to be attentive and productive in meetings. If you can lay the foundation for a work friendship, that will likely iron out any previous kinks.

GET ALONG

Of course, sometimes you just can’t turn an enemy in to an ally. If that happens with your boss, lower the bar just a bit. Aim for merely getting along. Stay friendly and engaged in meetings, get your work done on time, and avoid the temptation to complain about him/her to coworkers—bosses hear about these things. Always.

It should go without saying, but if there are specific criticisms your boss has given you (like being habitually late, for example), deal with those, as well.

GET OUT

If all of the above fails and your boss continues to be a daily thorn in your side, it may be time to get out of there. The process of finding a new job is a pain, but what sounds worse: a few weeks of irritation as you apply and interview, or years of psychological torture dealing with the boss from hell? If you do decide to change jobs because of your boss, be sure to be candid about that in the exit interview. Your company doesn’t do exit interviews? Contact HR on your way out and give them feedback. Be professional about it, but let them know that your main reason for leaving was your supervisor. Don’t do this for yourself as some silly form of revenge. Do it for your coworkers who still have to deal with that beast of a boss every day.

Work is work. It’s perfectly normal for there to be things about your job that aren’t enjoyable, but dealing with your boss shouldn’t give you headaches. Get in good, get along or get out. You spent a lot of time on the job each week— it shouldn’t be any more unpleasant than it has to be.

By: Adam Martin

Adam@adammartin13.com

How to Get Through a Holiday Dinner...

December 11th 2013 How to Get Through a Holiday Dinner with Family.... The holidays are a wonderful opportunity to reconnect with family and friends. For many of us, that’s what makes this time of year special—not the presents we do or don’t get, but the time we spend with the people we care about. That said, December can be a tough month to navigate without the occasional hiccup. Because there are so many moving parts, holiday family dinners are a time when tension is likely to rear its ugly head. Here, then, are a few tips for getting through your family’s holiday meals with as little hassle as possible. Set Your Expectations You know your family. If your holiday gatherings are like a Norman Rockwell painting, more power to you. Most of us are not so lucky. Instead of going “over the hills and through the woods” with pie-in-the-sky expectations, try to be realistic and—here’s the kicker—content. Your time with family doesn’t have to feel like it’s been sprinkled with elf dust to be magical. Enjoy the company of your loved ones and go easy on yourself and others if there are a few snags here and there. Part of The Solution Speaking of snags, if and when you hit them, be part of the solution, not part of the problem. The easiest way to do that is to think big-picture, starting with being thankful for what you have. Little misfires (like burned dinner rolls or dry turkey) aren’t really that big a deal when you keep in mind all the good stuff you have going on. Remember What Matters Ultimately, people are more important than things. If the meal isn’t perfect or you don’t get the present you were really banking on, that’s okay. Be assured, worse things could happen. Don’t allow the stuff of holiday get-togethers to disrupt your connection to the people you’re around. The people are always more important. There isn’t any way to ensure an absolutely stress-free holiday family dinner. But, if you can stay focused on what really matters, even a train-wreck of a meal won’t dampen your holiday spirit. Cheesy as it sounds, when you embrace a the-glass-is-half-full mentality, the holidays really can be a magical time. The trick is deciding now, before you hit those snags and snafus, to attend to your own attitude. The rest of it will work itself out. By: Adam Martin adam@adammartin13.com — LATEST NEWS & EVENTS — Event Space 28on27! Throwing an event? Then now is a good time to explore 28on27 and 1315 event space. 28on27 is a 2500 sq ft simple and elegant white box space, with a interior bar and soft furnishings. The space is great for launch events, private social events, pop up shops and more! It doesn't get more New York then 28on27 and 1315. For a  modern and cool atmosphere call us! Email for site visits or questions!                                                           Production Space Looking for shoot or production space? Well you've come to the right place, 1315 daylight studio and 28on27 studio are multifunctional spaces located in the heart of flatiron. Both spaces are great for photo shoots, castings, video production, holding areas, still life shoots, fittings, and anything else you can think of! Studio visits welcome - 212 - 244 - 4464 Contact us juan@28on27.com www.1315studios.com       www.28on27.com Join our face-book group!